There is a joke in the poly world that dinner-napkin map making 101 needs to be a required course for any of us seriously involved in the lifestyle. This here is my attempt at mapping the cast of folks who populate my life. I hope this helps you all keep track, even a little. To protect the privacy of my loved ones, I try to avoid using real names, unless I know it’s ok with the person I’m writing about.
Mr Awesome – he’s also known as Husband, my best friend, my better half, my other half, etc. we met when I was 17, married when I was 19 and he was 21, and we’ve been together since. He is the other half of my soul, and I can’t imagine my life without him in it.
We have two children. J or The Boy or My Son is the oldest. As of this update, he’s 10 and entering 5th grade. Lil D or sometimes just D is our 5-year-old daughter. She’ll be entering kindergarten soon.
Our lovers and friends are:
Wash – my long-distance love. When I first introduced him, he was known as the New Boy, but upon realizing he was going to be around for a while, I renamed him Wash, after the character in Firefly, to whom he bears a striking resemblance.
The Boyfriend – my geographically desirable sweetie of more than two years. He’s married to The Other Woman, who has been involved with Mr Awesome for a bit less than that. As of October 2013, Mr Awesome and the Other Woman are no longer together.
Velah – Mr Awesome’s sweetie and also his collared sub. Also one of my closest friends.
Moredena – my chosen sister and best friend. My real sister was taken from me several years ago, and I think I ended up with a much better trade, because I got Moredena instead. She’s married to Jirris Midvale and they have a lovely infant son. They aren’t poly, but they are willing to put up with all our crazy drama, and they love us anyway.